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4:52 pm - Thu, Aug 21, 2014
Q: What is dissociated identity disorder? -Luke
Anonymous

Hi Luke,

Here is an explanation of Dissociative Identity Disorder I did as part of topic of the week. Let me know if you want to know anything else.

What is D.I.D?

You may know Dissociative Identity Disorder as it’s old name, Multiple Personality Disorder. In the past few years, the name has been changed to better suit the illness, as D.I.D is a Dissociative Disorder, not a personality disorder as originally thought. Dissociative Identity disorder, is a mental illness in which the original personality is fragmented into multiple parts, and new personalities. These personalities are Alternate Personalities, (‘alters’ for short). These personalities can be presented in many different ways, as people, animals, fantasy creatures, you name it, the reasons for this are very specific to the original personality, as is the cause. The overall cause of D.I.D is very hard to work out, it is believed to be closely linked to trauma, but may not always be the case. Dissociative Identity Disorder is the most severe dissociative disorder and one of the rarest, sadly many people are misdiagnosed with D.I.D (due to the fact that memory loss of actions and events can be linked to other dissociative disorders not only D.I.D) and unfortunately many people ‘self diagnose’ D.I.D which is not an appropriate or safe practice. We have all experienced a moment of day dreaming, spacing out, or feeling like we’re not in touch with the world around us, this is dissociation. Dissociation can be as mild as a daydream, and many people who dissociate once in a blue moon do not have a dissociative disorder. However, for a person suffering from D.I.D, in moments of dissociation an alter has the ability to gain control of the body, sometimes this control is total control, where the host personality (typically the original personality, but the host is the most dominant personality) is unaware of what is going on, sometimes the host is aware, but still not in control, other times, alters and host will co-host or co-front, where more than one personality is in control at a time. As you can imagine, people with D.I.D are faced with the problem they will not always be in control, and when they aren’t anything an alter does, will be pinned on them by everyone unaware of their illness. Alters can work together with, or against their hosts in many situations.

Alters will present for many different reasons, sometimes it is a random point of control, and often it is because a host is triggered by something happening, or a memory, and an alter will come out to protect them. In many cases, an alter will go to extreme lengths to keep a host safe, and attack the threat directly. Sometimes, however an alter can be a threat to the system themself. (System: referring to a collective group of alters, and including the host /and original.

~Tess

4:49 pm
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Q: Pete you are awesome and always make me laugh. Keep up the good work! :)
Anonymous

From Jori, to the other admins, to all of our wonderful followers - I cannot thank you enough for taking a chance on me and for being so supportive!

<3

Pete

4:45 pm
Q: !!!!time sensitive!!!!!! I have just been told that my friend committed suicide and I have 3 bottles of pills and well I am scared and alone and it's just all happened on me
Anonymous

Hello there! c:

Take some deep breaths for me okay? In through your nose for four counts. Hold for four counts, and exhale through your mouth for four counts. Repeat this until you feel a bit more stable. 

I can only imagine how painful this time must be for you. Losing someone is never a good thing, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I want you to know tht in your rtime of need, you are not alone. Everyone here at MHA cares about you and I assure you that we want to help in any way possible.

That being said, if you are having any suicidal thoughts, please call your emergency services or tell someone right away. Your life is precious and you deserve the help. No one wants to see you go—not like this, love. So please, pick up the phone and tell someone. Let them help you through these hard times. Put the pill bottle down and try and breathe. It will be okay. I am here for you.

—Mattaiyo

4:34 pm
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Q: Could you explain what intrusive thoughts are? Thanks 💕
Anonymous

Hello there! c:

Intrusive thoughts are unwelcome involuntary thoughts, images, or unpleasant ideas that may become obsessions, are upsetting or distressing, and can be difficult to manage or eliminate.

{Source}

Basically, these thoughts could be anything—suicidal, homicidal, panicked, happy…ect. I describe them as fleeting thoughts/emotions that often we don’t have control over. They are very normal, but when they become obsessive, I’d suggest talking to someone about it. I hope this helped!

—Mattaiyo

4:31 pm
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Q: I honestly hate myself and everything about myself.
Anonymous

Hi love,

Well I love you and everything about you! Want to come and tell me why you’re feeling this way? What’s happened lovely? You can come and talk to me, I care, I want to help, we all do.

Please reach out love,

Paige <3

4:28 pm
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Someone submitted this in. These words are powerful. c: Stay strong!&#8212;Mattaiyo

Someone submitted this in. These words are powerful. c: Stay strong!

—Mattaiyo

4:21 pm
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Q: Has anyone ever used bio oil on stretch marks cus I got some and i wanna know if it worked well and if i should put some on mine or just use on scars?
Anonymous

Hi lovely :)

I’ve used bio oil on stretch marks and scars before and found it to be quite effective on both! You’re supposed to apply it twice a day, but I’m lucky if I remember to use to once a week! However, it still works for me, so I’d definitely recommend it. :)

I’ve actually heard some people say they found it works better on stretch marks than scars! However some people don’t think it works for them, so bare in mind it has different results for everyone, as all skin is different!

Lots of love,

Dani <3

4:19 pm
Q: I feel so alone. Numb. Depressed. Upset. Unwelcomed. I just feel so…empty
Anonymous

Hi love,

You’re not alone, I’m here for you. What’s going on? Come and talk to me sweetie? I want to listen and help, I care about you. All of the admins here do! We will all help you in any way we can! Just let us know what is on your mind and what is happening right now and we’ll try our best!

Everyone is welcome here love, including you! You can always talk, rant, vent, share achievements with us!

Please come and talk to us love,

lots of love,

Paige (:

4:02 pm
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Q: I like some bands that my friends don't, and they've announced tours for next year! I'm super excited, but I would like to know if anyone thinks it's lame to go to concerts alone? X
Anonymous

Hi love!

Definitely not! I’ve been to things on my own before, or just with my dad. I’ve taken my dad to all sorts from Rihanna to my chemical romance to the blackout, and he loves it all admittedly but he wouldn’t go if it wasn’t for me. I’ve also been to things on my own, I saw Derren Brown recently on my own as there were only single seats left, it was amazing. My mum went to the theatre on her own and loved it. You can talk to the people there and make friends there! I make friends at concerts all the time! I might never see or speak to them again but it’s fun.

Just be safe and responsible okay? And have fun! 

Lots of love,

Paige <3

3:57 pm
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Q: I tried to hang myself - again😔
Anonymous

Hi love,

Please call the emergency services right now. Please reach out to someone love. It’s so important that you talk to someone right now, there are so many people that want to help you and care about you. 

Things will get better love.

I’m so glad you’re still alive, I want to talk to you, get to know you, come and tell me what’s happening? Help me to understand? 

Your life is so precious sweetie, you have so much to live for, you might not see it right now but there is, I promise.

Please, please talk to someone right now, call an ambulance and tell them what’s happened or someone you trust. I can’t tell you enough how much you need to call someone. 

I love you sweetie, stay strong and hold in there, call someone. 

Lots of love,

Paige <3

3:48 pm
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Q: i want to overdose and live through it. i want to feel the weightlessness and have my family actually care about me you know? i hear about people loving life after they do something like that. why cant i? -a
Anonymous

Hi A,
Love, trust me, you don’t need that. It’s not how it is made to look. It’s not all going to be fine after you wake up. You’ll only have one more problem to live with.
I know that you don’t feel it, but your family loves you in the only way they know how. My parents didn’t show me enough love either, but they did the best they could. It might be hard to accept this, but people don’t alwats act the way we want/need them to. You could just sit down and have a talk with someone you trust from your family.
You won’t feel weightless. You’ll feel heavy and sluggish, dizzy and in pain. You’ll wake up extremely dizzy and unable to think amd link two words together. I’ve been there. Life doesn’t change for the better after you attempt suicide. If anything it gets worse. I woke up feeling guilty. Guilty for attempting, for failing, for hurting everyone around me… My parents still don’t trust me and it’s been more than one year since my last attempt.
The only way for your life to get better is to reach out for someone’s help. Be it family, teacher, friend, professional. Not carrying these feelings on your own can save your life.
And think about the case in which, no matter what they do, the doctors can’t save your life. That would destroy everyone that cares about you. They’d go to sleep thinking it was their fault, they’d wake up feeling guilty. They’ll become depressed. Suicide doesn’t end just your life. It kills everyone around you too.
Please call a helpline, or contact a web counselor if you can’t go to one in person.
It gets better with help.Please don’t try to end this. If you ever need someone to talk to we’re an ask away.
Take care,
Corina

3:47 pm
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Q: I was reading some old anons asking about premarital sex in the Bible and someone said that it doesn't says anything. Actually, it does in both testaments (the old and new one, bc the Bible is splited in two: before Jesus and after him) so yeah 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.
Anonymous

To any religious anons wondering about premarital sex

Thanks for sending this in, I hope it helps people,

Paige <3

3:44 pm
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Q: WHY DO PEOPLE SEXUALLY ABUSE BABIES??? ~disgusted
Anonymous

Hi love,

Honestly, I have no idea. There are some very cruel people in this world and I cannot tell you what goes through their minds. These people are disgusting and I can only hope that they are found and taken away from children as soon as possible and that the children are okay. 

I hope you’re okay, if you need to talk about anything we’re here. 

Lots of love, 

Paige <3 

3:32 pm
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Q: I'm so done, so tired, so empty, so alone. So many things have happened and I have no one. My friends aren't my friends anymore but I need them. I want to forget everything that has happened, but it keeps coming back. Everything went bad again, I've fallen back, but deeper this time, I'm afraid, afraid. I can't find my way back, or not back, just out. Lx
Anonymous

Hi lovely,

I know you’re afraid right now love, take some deep breaths okay? In and out, in and out, breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, in and out. Keep breathing okay?

You’re not alone, I’m here for you. Talk to me? I’m here to listen and help, I want to listen and help. What’s happened with your friends? Why aren’t they your friends any more? Is there someone else that you trust that you can reach out to for support?

We can find you a way out love, you can get through this okay? Please reach out and talk to me about what’s going on. I want to help you love.

Still with me? Keep breathing love, in and out, in and out. It’s going to be okay, I promise.

You can make it through this, I know you can, just come and talk to me okay? We can’t forget things honey, but we can learn to accept them and move forward from them. We grow from our experiences. You can grow from this. You might not feel like you can right now, but you will, in years to come you’ll look back and you’ll think of how what’s happened has helped you to grow.

Lots of love sweetie, stay safe,

Paige <3

3:16 pm
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Q: I'm going to do it. I'm going to slit my wrists, take the pills and jump of the bridge. I can't take it anymore, everyone goes behind my back and talks about me and I'm so paranoid of everything all the time and I worry that people are reading what I'm saying and listening to what im thinking and seeing it above my head and everyone I trust has fucked me over and I get angry so easily and I want to hurt and kill people and I just can't take this shit anymore. I'm done.
Anonymous

Hi lovely,

Please don’t do it, you don’t have to do it. It feels bad now, right? It feels like you’re trapped, there’s now way out, this is your only choice?

You’re wrong. I know you are wrong. I know you’re wrong because you sent this ask. This ask tells me that you don’t want to do it. You’re reaching out to us because deep down you want to live.

You’re so strong love, just by talking to us you’re strong.

Please take some deep breaths with me right now. In through your nose, hold it for 3 seconds, and let it go through your mouth. Again, in through the nose, hold it there, and let it go, in through your nose, pause it there and release it, in and out. Keep going with that while you read okay?

It sounds like you’re having a really rough time right now, and I know it’s so hard for you to tell someone about your paranoid thoughts right? But you managed to tell me, you managed to tell the blog. I think you really need to talk to someone right now that you know and trust. Tell them how you’re feeling, I promise they won’t judge you. I can tell you now that I don’t know what you’re thinking or seeing right now. I have no idea, okay? The person you’re going to talk to will have no idea either. I promise.

If you’re in danger right now love, please call the emergency services okay? They don’t know what’s going on, they can’t hear your thoughts either. They need you to tell them okay?

Stay safe, we’re here for you,

Lots of love,

Paige <3

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