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3:07 am - Tue, Sep 2, 2014
Q: It's Loren. Thanks so much for answering. I got an STI test before I slept with my now fiancé, after I slept with the men and everything was clear. I definitely did something right!
Anonymous

Hi lovely,

I’m glad you got tested and it was all clear! Have you considered talking to your current partner about everything that went on? It might help you to feel better to to get it off of your chest and be open with her. I’m not saying it will go very smoothly, I don’t know how she will react to what has happened. But if you stress how it was in the past and that she is your present and future and that you can’t change what happened, I’m sure she will understand.

It’s completely up to you whether you do talk to her though love. We are always here to support you, you can always send us in an ask :)

Lots of love sweetie,

Paige <3

2:05 am
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mental-health-advice:

Hello guys. This is a personal favor from Shay. Her best friend is missing and thought to be kidnapped. If you have any information, please the number on the flier. PLEASE PLEASE REBLOG!! Someone can know something and reblog ing can help so much! Thank you.

Boosting this up to get this spread as much as possible, if you haven’t already done so please reblog it and help us find her.

1:34 am
Q: Hi. So my dad is trying to put me on anti depressants and I honestly don't want to take them. My sister takes them and they make her like an emotionless zombie and I don't want to be like that. I told my dad that and he said that he doesn't really care what I want... So what do I do? -e
Anonymous

Hi sweetie!

Honestly, you need to discuss this with your doctor. 
And there are a lot of anti depressants. Different ones are going to have different affects on you. And you’re going to be affected differently than somebody else on the same medication. Different people react differently to medication. Like, some people aren’t really affected at all. Some people are affected negatively and some positively. Everyone’s reactions are going to be different.
Talk to your doctor about it before making any decisions. If you still decide you don’t wanna take them, cool. If you decide you wanna try them, awesome!
But its all up to you.
Take care!

-Ryleigh 

1:08 am
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Q: I don't know what to do. I'm 13 and I had never had a crush on a guy, while all the other girls in my church youth group (i'm homeschooled, so it's a place I can socialize even though I'm an atheist) were swooning over guys. Then I got a crush on one of the preacher's sons, but the problem is, he's 19. He was the only person who would bother talk to me, but he left to another state for college recently. Now I just feel lonely. I know there's no way it could work, but i can't get over him.
Anonymous

Hi there!

I’m sorry that you’re having such a hard time with guys. It’s perfectly okay to not have a crush on a lot of guys. Some people develop crushes more easily than others and that’s okay too. You still have a lot of time to have crushes and things, and even if you don’t get a lot of them, that’s alright.

I’m sorry that your crush moved away. That’s really hard. I think that you could make a long distance relationship work if you both were willing. You could talk to him about this to see if it was something that he would be okay with doing. You two could video chat and text as communication and he could come visit during his holidays. Long distance relationships aren’t for everybody, though, so you should talk to him. Even if you don’t want to have a long distance relationship, I think that you can still be friends and that might help you feel less lonely.

Something else that might help you is to try making new friends that are close by. Making friends is really hard, but you can do it. I would start with something that you’re passionate about and try to see if there’s an organization that you can join. This way, you’re doing something that you like, but you’re also meeting people.

Stay strong!

~Kay

1:00 am
Q: Hi. I have a question about being an admin. I really want to be an admin but I feel like I can't because I am not actually diagnosed with anything. I'm pretty sure I have anxiety and other things but I still feel like I would be a phony if I don't have a diagnosis...
Anonymous

Hello love,

You don’t have to be suffering from a mental illness in order to be an admin and help others! :) For example, I have no diagnosis at all and I’ve been here for over a year! Please do send in an application, we help people. You don’t have to have any diagnosis or anything to be a part of the team, in fact you don’t even have to tell us if you do or don’t have a diagnosis if you don’t want to. As long as you can help people and give out MHA answers then we will welcome you here with open arms. :)

You are not a phony at all! We would love to hear from you dear. :) <3

Much love, Laura.

12:58 am
Q: I've been having some really bad mood swings At least 5 mood swings a day and they range from extremely irritable to feeling completely worthless and depressed Is that just normal female teenager hormones or do I have a problem?
Anonymous

Hi there!

I’m sorry that you’re having so much trouble with mood swings. They really aren’t fun, and they’re incredibly exhausting. There are a lot of reasons for mood swings. It depends on your age and physical maturity, but if you’re an adolescent, it’s possible that this is hormones and puberty. Teenagers experience a very high number of mood swings during puberty, and that’s something that most people around that age experience. It also might could be PMS if you’re a female.

I think that if you’re concerned about this, or it is causing you a lot of problems, you should talk to your doctor. It could be a mental illness, or just hormones, but either way, they can help you with this. They can help you to determine why you’re getting these mood swings, and help diagnose or prescribe medication.

You can also do a number of things to help alleviate the mood swings. Some things that you can do are: get enough sleep, limit caffeine and alcohol, eat a well balanced diet, and get enough exercise. I have also read that finding a hobby can help you with mood swings as well. I think that this helps because you’re doing something enjoyable more, so your mood will be more stable. I have also heard that meditation can help as well.

Stay strong!

~Kay

12:51 am
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Please read.

Alright, this is the last time I’m going to make another post like this (Well, until I get super pissed off again)

I am so sick and tired of people messaging us and saying “I relapsed because of you” and “You keep ignoring me.”

First of all, don’t you dare blame things on us like that because that is extremely hurtful and takes its toll on us. We are volunteering our time to be here to help people. WE ARE NOT AN EMERGENCY HELPLINE.

Second, we are not ignoring anybody. We get over 100 asks a day. Its hard to keep up with that many, but we are not ignoring you. We will get to your ask.

Third, we don’t answer urgent asks first. There’s just too many to do that to be honest.

Please keep in mind that we are people as well. We want to help you guys. But we do not deserve asks blaming us for stuff. We really don’t. This blog is full of amazing admins and they all deserve to be able to have a little time to themselves. Please keep that in mind.

Thanks guys.

-Ryleigh

12:49 am
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Q: Laura, you answered my ask about love and I just wanted to say thank you. You've completely reassured me. Even though I do feel extremely sad knowing I did love him your answer was just so perfect. I also think you need to show Jesse your answer, it will probably make his entire life! - Addison
Anonymous

Dear Addison,

Hello lovely, sorry this is such a late reply but I am so relieved to hear that my answer helped you out! Love can make us sad sometimes, it can make us feel any kind of emotion, but if it’s real it won’t die off. If you are meant for each other you will be together, if you aren’t and you are the ones for each other then life will lead you back to one another. :) It’s also not a one time thing, you can love more than one person. You can have a childhood love, a teenage ‘first love’ heartbreak, the young love couple, the puppy love couple. You can have a different person for different stages in your life and sometimes you may only need one person for the rest of your life. :) I sure hope Jesse and I stay together forever. :) If you ever need anything else don’t hesitate to ask! I’m always here for you.

P.s I did show him and he was very very happy and it was adorable! :)

Much love, Laura.

12:33 am
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Hello guys. This is a personal favor from Shay. Her best friend is missing and thought to be kidnapped. If you have any information, please the number on the flier. PLEASE PLEASE REBLOG!! Someone can know something and reblog ing can help so much! Thank you.

10:59 pm - Mon, Sep 1, 2014
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Q: How come no one ever pays attention to personality disorders, it's ALWAYS about anxiety and depression? I'm sick of being stereotyped as violent.
Anonymous

Hi, sweetie.

Unfortunately, anxiety and depression are just more known about than personality disorders. And that’s probably because so many people have depression and anxiety. Yes, personality disorders should be discussed more so that people will actually understand more. The best we can do is try to inform people. And if someone stereotypes you, just explain to them. Explain that you are not violent. 
One day, hopefully soon, personality disorders will be more known about. (:
Take care!

-Ryleigh

10:53 pm
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Q: I'm diagnosed with depression but i'm doing pretty well atm. This morning i got out of my room, found my mum crying. She told me that the husband of her co-worker jumped out of the window because of his depression. She is so scared, i would do the same (but i don't have any suicidal thoughts and never had...) and i had to promise her, i never ever will do that. We cried the whole evening and i'm pretty bummed because i'm such a burden to her... I just want her to feel better about everything.
Anonymous

Hi, sweetie!

I’m glad you are doing well at the moment! And it’s good that your mum cares so much about her. And its not surprising that she would be worried about you. It would probably make her feel better if the two of you regularly talked about how you are feeling, so she can be sure that you’re not going to do anything to harm yourself. And tell her that you’ve never really had suicidal thought. 
She’ll probably always be worried about you, but you can help make her less worried by checking in with her and making sure she knows that you are doing well. 
Take care!

-Ryleigh

10:22 pm
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Q: **abuse** I'm not sure if this is considered mental health but my boyfriend gets really mean sometimes and I guess it's my fault cause I have an attitude but he sometimes hits me or things around me or breaks stuff and I want to end it but I'm not sure if I can. I'm so scared of how he'll react. He always threatens to kill himself if I even leave. I don't know what to do or who to go to. I feel like I can't leave him. I'm scared of hurting his feelings and I don't know why when he's so mean.
Anonymous

Hi sweetie!

First of all, nothing he does to you is your fault. 
Nobody deserves to be abused and what he is doing is caused by nobody but himself. You need to get out of that relationship. Its incredibly dangerous and toxic. It might be a good idea to have somebody with you when you break up with him, and it would be a good idea for you to tell somebody close to him that he said he’d kill himself if you broke up with him (like tell his parents or something) because even though there’s a good chance he won’t really do it, you just wanna make sure. Most of the time, people just say things like that to make you not want to leave. But he probably won’t. But it won’t hurt to let somebody know. And if the two of you go to school together, it might be a good idea for you to tell somebody so they can make sure you’re safe. 
Please try to get out of the relationship as soon as you can, and take care of yourself.

-Ryleigh

10:09 pm
Q: hi I sent a submission a couple days ago signed -potato, I'm not sure if you guys just didn't get it yet or if you haven't answered, or if I just can't find it/it wasn't tagged.
Anonymous

Hello lovely,

We have it here! We’re just a little behind in answering. Sorry for the wait! In the meantime, feel free to check out our resources on the Whilst You’re Waiting page.

Take care,
Alexandria.

10:06 pm
Q: can someone come on live chat please? I really need someone to talk to, please..
Anonymous

Hello lovely,

Someone is online right now!

Take care,
Alexandria.

10:04 pm
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Q: Time sensitive. I'm so sorry to annoy you with this but I'm going to a psycologist tomorrow to get a diagnosis and I'm scared because what is gonna happen? Do I have to talk or do I have to answer questions? I'm so afraid of talking, I can't...
Anonymous

Hello lovely,

You’re not annoying us at all, I promise! We’re here to help in whichever ways that we can. The way that they’ll run the session will really depend on which illnesses they want to assess you for, however, for each diagnosis I’ve been given, it’s included filling out a survey, and then having the person ask further questions based on that survey. For example, if they’re looking into depression in Australia, they often use this K10 depression test. You fill it out, and the psychologist will score it, and they may expand on the questions. For example, if you say on the survey that you “Always” feel worthless, they may ask you why you’re feeling this way, so that they can expand on that, and see how you’re really feeling.

I know it can be nerve-wracking, but know that the psychologist will lead most of the conversation, by getting you to fill out forms, or by asking you questions. They won’t expect you to do the majority of the talking. Remember to take deep breaths whilst answering, and let them know 100% honestly how you’re feeling (both avoiding under-exaggeration or over-exaggeration), because the more honest you are, the more appropriate help they can give you. Good luck, lovely! Remember that getting this diagnosis will lead to you getting better help through this.

Take care,
Alexandria.

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